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I feel like one area of deep struggle for teens is to be Christ-like toward their parents. This was a struggle for me growing up and, as I look back, these are some things I wish I had dug into.
Spend some time thinking about this: if Jesus has transformed your life, is this transformation being worked out in your home?
1. Most Teens Are Jerks To Their Parents
Note: I’m not saying parents are never wrong. They’re sinners too. But there’s a big difference in lovingly questioning your parents while expressing your needs and shutting them out because they “don’t get you”.
2. They Don’t Get You… So Help Them
Part of your job as a teen is translation. There are decades separating you and your parents. That’s a lot of room for miscommunication. Your teen years are a great time to learn how to express and explain yourself to your parents (your reasons, your motives, your wants). It’s not much good expressing yourself if you can’t explain yourself.
3. Look on Him (Hebrews 12.2)
For spiritual strength, direction, and hope look to Jesus, the perfect family member. Look to Him as the perfect older brother. If I could summarize the way I think most youth feel about younger siblings, it’s embarrassed. Younger siblings in all their immaturity are a great source of shame. So they are either ignored with rolled eyes or made fun of.
Look at Jesus. God is our Perfect Father. Jesus, His Son, is our Perfect Older Brother (this is the point of Luke 15′s The Prodigal Son and Romans 8.14-17). Imagine Jesus’ thoughts of us. We have rejected His Father, trashed our inheritance, run away from home, and dragged the family name through the dirt. Through it all, Jesus comes not to condemn or shame, but to lovingly point us to the Father. He rebukes us in love, not so we “get what we deserve” but to make a way to God.
If you cannot treat your little brother, little sister, or parents this way, do you really understand how Jesus loves you?
4. This is a Great Opportunity
As Christians, we should have mission on our minds: showing all that Jesus is better than life. I cannot think of a way to be more counter-cultural than to be a teen that is respectful and loving toward their family. This does not mean you and your family are best friends. It means to be one who loves sacrificially. Who prays for them. Who argues well. Who humbly admits when they’re wrong. Who serves their family as Jesus served His family…
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